I am a very nice person who can tolerate pretty much anything. I try to see people in their most positive light as much as I can, however I also have quite a fair few pet peeves with which, for the life of me, I cannot be Zen about.
The ones I have listed below are the most annoying ones for me. It may not be as annoying to some people, but for me, these ones drive me INSANE.
So, without further ado, here are 12 of my most hated pet peeves.
12) Low rider jeans – I must admit, low rider jeans are sexy……on a super skinny girl. BUT and this is a huge BUT…….if you are slightly chubby, a little ample in all the wrong places, like most of us are, please DO NOT wear these jeans. I am all for girl power, don’t get me wrong, however there are limits to what we real women can wear and get away with.
I do not want to see muffin tops, butt cracks and extra flesh that look like baked bread that has overflowed over your jeans. It offends the eyes and insults the intelligence. Are you trying to pull a fast one on us, because you’re not really fooling anyone.
It may have fit you, you may have snuggled and squeezed into them, but the rest of your squeezed up flesh has to come out somewhere and that somewhere is the space atop your teeny tiny super skinny jeans.
You are not skinny just because you managed to snuggle inside those jeans.
Do not fool yourself. And do not listen to your husband/ boyfriend/ friend/ best friend when they tell you that you don’t look fat, they are lying to you.
Listen instead to your inner voice, the one that tells it like it is, no holds barred. She is the only voice you should listen to. If she says you look ridiculous and orders you to remove it immediately, do it right away, without delay.
Come on, you are a big girl, you can handle the truth, so, take them off now because some of us here are trying to eat their lunch in peace.
11) Saying hello and being ignored. – I think this is so very rude.
When someone takes time to smile and say hello or good morning to you, have the decency to reciprocate. It is only proper manners, even if you don’t like that person.
Civility is paramount especially in the work place, unless of course, you really despise that person for something that they’ve done to you, then I suppose you’re off the hook, but then again, prove to them that you are better than that and keep up with your morning greeting to that person or persons.
Make them aware that you have manners and that these petty annoyances are beneath you. Rise above all that crap, you are better than that.
10) People who cut their nails in public – When in the world did this ever become acceptable in public?
I catch the train to work every morning like many people do in Sydney. It is easier, more convenient and faster.
I have witnessed many a time where some ill-mannered person has cut their nails in front of everyone, totally oblivious to the nasty stares and disgusted looks of other passengers.
I don’t care if you were running late and did not have time to groom yourself, you just DO NOT cut your nails in public.
First of all, it is disgusting.
Second of all, it is Disgusting.
Third of all, it is DISGUSTING!!!!!
Need I say more???!!!!
9) Small talk on Monday mornings with workmates who choose to share every single detail of their weekend with you even though you are not close to them – First of all, if you are not close to me and you are not my usual close friend/ friends at work, I really don’t give a damn what you did on the weekend. We are not friends, hence my lack of interest. I don’t care what you did, who you did, what you bought, where you ate and who you met.
It is much too early in the morning to hear your perfect fake life. Let me have my morning coffee first, no, on second thought, go tell someone else about your weekend, because I am not in the mood. If we are not close, I really don’t care about your private life. Save all your bragging or whining for someone who will stand there and actually appear interested in your adventures or misadventures.
Let us not keep up this facade and live our lives with truth.
So, the next time you want to whine about your boyfriend/girlfriend/ wife/ husband/ kids/ the boss, please remember this……..I have problems of my own and if you are going to bitch about nonsensical things to me and we are not “buddies”, hold your tongue and save it for someone who would grin and bear it and be nice enough to feign interest.
I will only say this once, I don’t care, there, I said it, now go bother somebody else and leave me with my thoughts and my coffee.
8) Alighting from trains and elevators – When did it become acceptable for people to rush in without first waiting for the other people to alight?
I have observed this time and time again and it is not only school children who do this, it is teenagers and also grown men and women, adults who should know better.
We, as adults should be setting an example for the children to follow, but some of us fail miserably and epically in this department, and so we end up raising children who grow up into adults who know nothing about manners.
Our society has become “every man/woman for him/herself”. This is not good.
In a few more years time, we will have become a society of non-caring, ill mannered neanderthals who have forgotten the few but simple rules we need to follow in life and we will have failed our ancestors and the human race all together.
What a sad sad day it would be when Martians finally make contact with us and discover a race of rude, crass, Troglodytic bunch of selfish Earthlings. But then again , the Martians or any other more intelligent species than us will have just eaten us or blown us sky high and be done with it all.
7) People who drag their feet – I hate it when people drag their feet when they walk. It is so very annoying to my ears and I feel like lifting their legs up so the noise won’t annoy me.
This has turned rampant now, I’ve noticed, with most young people. They walk around dragging their feet and making such terrible dragging noises. Are their feet heavier that they cannot lift them up? Are they just plain lazy? Do they just not care that they are annoying the hell out of everybody?
I remember being angry a few years ago in our apartment. I think the hubby and I had a major fight that day. When everything had died down and we were both calmed down a bit, I heard this dragging sound coming from the hallway outside. It was a tiled hallway where every action had an echo.
Our young neighbor from upstairs who had always annoyed me with her walking (I’m sure she was a nice young lady, but on this particular day, I was Livid), was coming home from work with her heavy dragging feet which made such a commotion.
Imagine, if you will, the sound of those feet being dragged all across the cold, tiled floor of the hallway and my temper not quite simmered down yet. My blood began to boil once more and soon enough, it exploded.
So, like any annoyed woman with PMS would do if she were in my shoes, and remember I was livid, I screamed at the top of my voice…… “STOP DRAGGING YOUR FEEEEEEEEEEET”.
I heard her stop and as I looked through our peephole, I could see her picking up her feet and walking carefully and as quietly and softly to her apartment as she could, as if her life depended on it and quite honestly, at that particular moment, it probably did, judging by the veins pulsating on my neck, the poor girl tip toed her way home.
Yes, I’m a bitch, but it had to be done.
6) People who constantly step over or ignore your boundaries – There are people in our lives who push too much sometimes in the relationships we share with them.
They over stay their welcome. They over step the boundaries that you have set for them. Some are so self involved that they fail to realize that they have over stepped, jumped, twirled and cartwheeled all over your boundaries.
We all have our personal spaces. It is about an arm’s length from our bodies.
Unfortunately, some people ignore this and are nose to nose attached to us. We can smell their breath and know what they had for lunch, figuratively speaking of course, otherwise…….EWWWW!!!!. And at other times, they are so close, you can see them digest their food. Again…..EWWWWW!!!!
5) Being taken for granted – Sometimes when we love, we love too much. We will have done anything for that person or persons regardless of the consequences that may have befallen us.
I show my love in this way. There is no other way I know how being a passionate Scorpio. I give my 200 percent whenever I can feel that the other person is deemed worthy of my love, time and attention.
Unfortunately, there are times when we show too much love and sadly we are taken for granted.
When this happens to me and trust me it has happened many times with friends and family, it takes me forever to gain that trust again. It feels like such a betrayal when you give your all and it is either ignored or tossed aside like a piece of crumpled paper.
This is when you feel you’ve lost everything and you listen to a few sad songs, belt out some rock ballads, write in your journal and swear like your life depended on it and when you are spent, you pick yourself up and realize that it is their loss not yours, you don’t need to grieve over a one-sided relationship because you deserve so much more and so you try to do good again.
Such is life and then we eat cake, put some lipstick on and face the world again, only this time, wiser and sadly more guarded and jaded but with great looking lips and a much sharper wit.
4) Picking your nose in public – When was this ever considered normal and accepted human behavior to be exercised in public? Was there a memo that came out and they’d neglected to send me a copy?
There is a time and place for everything and picking your nose in public belongs in the privacy of a confined space where nobody can see you.
I just saw a grown woman walk past me with half her arm up her nose.
I was aghast, I am aghast and will be forever aghast by this behavior. There is no justification for it.
This woman was totally unaware of the people around her, totally oblivious as to how shocking her actions were. And she did it as she walked passed a dining area, where people ate and enjoyed their food. I simply cannot drink my soy latte now. Somehow, what I just witnessed, has left a terrible taste in my mouth.
Why oh why do you want to pick your nose in public anyway, it is disgusting, unattractive, rude, obnoxious, uncouth and oh hell, it is just wrong!!! What is wrong with people???
3) Your phone, tablet or laptop is not as important as me – Whenever I go out to eat nowadays, I have a game that I play in my head. I try to count how many people go out to dinner and end up totally ignoring each other as they take pictures of their food, or themselves to post on social media. After all, your social media perfect fake life is more important than the great company of your loved ones, right?
The saddest I’ve ever seen was a family consisting of the parents and two teenage children. They were seated just a table away from my husband and I.
This normal family looked like any other family and as I observed them, I noticed that everyone had their phones and tablets out on the table and every single one of them were online. Nobody was talking to anybody. And sadder still, it didn’t occur to them that they were totally ignoring each other. It was just normal to them. There was a beautiful meal in front of them, their loved ones were right there with them and yet nobody cared. It was a sad and pathetic sight indeed.
Does anyone even remember anymore how it used to be when phones were just used for calling and computers were found only in the office and/or home?
These were the great times when people talked to one another, laughed at each others’ jokes and got to know each other through the simple act of sharing. Sharing food, sharing company, sharing information, sharing their day, sharing jokes and sharing their love for one another.
Those were great times. And they can still be had, if only we put down our phones, eat a meal and talk to one another.
2) Fakeness on Facebook and any social media – This may gain me a few haters out there but I will say it anyway.
I HATE people who convey a perfect life on Facebook. There I said, hate me if you will.
They take pictures of their perfected photo shopped selfies, duck lips enhanced, faces contoured and hair extensions straightened, with their perfect lives, happy faces, and loving husbands, who declare their love with a long list of over exaggerated descriptions of their angelic, saintly, celestial and ethereal wives.
To top it all off, pictures of their perfect pets, huge spotless houses and brand new expensive cars are plastered all over social media for all to see, for all to oggle over and for all to envy.
Behind closed doors though, and I say this with certainty as I have observed many a friend with perfect smiles who hide behind the “perfection”, that we are all over-compensating on Facebook.
I suppose we all do it up to a certain degree, be it to cover an empty life, a lonely life, a boring life, a marriage breakdown, depression, a divorce, low self esteem, narcissistic personality, plain jealousy, insecurities or hubris?
None of us is ever perfect, and thank goodness for that. It is hard enough being a good person without fronting fake perfection to keep up the charade. It’s exhausting.
We are made of little imperfections. It is what being human is all about.
We live in a world, we move around in a body and we live a life filled with imperfections whichever way we turn. So why force perfection when imperfection is what we are truly made of and it is what makes us all unique.
It is the invisible glue that somehow keeps us all connected, regardless of all our differences.Why not embrace our imperfection and live a unique and interesting life, complete with grubby fingers and messy hair. Isn’t that a more achievable life to strive for and more fun?
So, why must we cover it up? Why must we deny this life we have been blessed to live?
Why must we lie about the most normal and natural of things? Because it is better than facing reality, I suppose.
Just keep in mind though, whatever perfection you try to project on Facebook, don’t forget that there are people who actually know who you are and how imperfect your life truly is, just like everyone else’.
You are no better or worse than any of us. We are all sufferers of insecurities, regardless of how hard we try to hide them. Hide it if you must. Work on it, if you must. But don’t fake it to impress people you don’t really care for and are too shallow to see past your facade and dig deeper to discover the real you, warts, tantrums and all, because at the end of the day, we all wear different masks and have different moods, it’s just who we are.
We are all on the same boat. We all have problems. Why live in a world of La-la-land where unicorns roam and problems puff up into pretty pink smoke, when we can live life realistically and with truth regardless of how crappy it can be sometimes and yet it can also be beautiful the rest of the time. That’s Life, it’s as simple as that.
1) Broken promises – I was raised with the motto Your Word is Your Bond.
My parents instilled in my siblings and I the importance of it and how paramount it was to keep a promise.
Our parents always said that although we were born lacking silver spoons in our mouths, we could always hold our heads high if we lived by this logic, regardless of what our economic status were in life.
It defined who you were and it built a solid character with which you could be proud. It built your Integrity as a person which no amount of wealth could ever afford. It was your moral wealth and your upper hand in the world.
For me, a promise is Sacred. This is why when someone I deem important in my life makes a promise and breaks it, because perhaps it wasn’t as important to them as it was for me, my heart breaks and I treat it as a betrayal that I cannot and will not easily forget.
A promise is an invisible contract and contracts should always be held to the highest regard. And if a promise is broken, there should be a valid reason for it not to be kept.
It is not easy keeping a promise, sometimes you inadvertently break a few hearts, but a kept promise builds trust in people, and Trust is all that matters in relationships.
It is easier to never make a promise you cannot keep and upset someone a little, rather than to make a promise then break it, breaking someone’s heart a lot.
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